Confidence: How To Maintain A Confident Attitude

Keeping an Attitude That Secures Victory


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Confidence stems from within—if you believe that you cannot do a thing, then it only means that you’re scared of doing it-scared of the repercussions. All you need to do is to exorcise those demons of fear within you, and the best way to do that will be to conquer that fear. As Vincent Van Gogh said, “If you hear a voice within you say ‘you cannot paint,’ then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.”

1. Do what you hear that you cannot do, and you will gain confidence.  Defy the demons within.

All of us need confidence in order to fuel our passage down into the unknown, for it means moving out of our comfort zones—out of the world of the ‘tried and tested.’ Naturally you are scared at what you may encounter, but that first initial step is the biggest one that you will take, for hopefully there will be no looking back after that. Remember, confidence will not change what skills you have, however, it will help you rebuild them so that they are stronger than ever before. Payment time will come.

Having said that, you’ll find that with every effort you make to counter bottlenecks and cross hurdles that come in the way of your efforts, you’ll emerge stronger than before. The fact that you’re willing to make an attempt means that your mind has partly accepted the fact that it can be done (which is in contrast to the initial -‘I cannot’), and you now begin to have faith in yourself and your abilities. You may make a lot of mistakes on the way but the difference is you’re no longer scared of making them. Well done! You’re halfway there.

2. Stay focused on your victories

David was a shepherd.  He was not remembered to be a sizeable man,but he had come against sizeable opposition.  When he would watch his sheep, fierce predators would try to come and eat them.  At one point, a bear tried to eat his sheep, and he had to fight the bear.  He probably heard voices within telling him that he could not, but he fought the beat,and overtook him.  At another point, a lion came after his sheep, again, he probably heard voices within telling him how strong the lion is.  You and I both know that bears and lions are strong animals, but this young, small boy was faced with them, fought them, and overtook them.  On another occasion, his entire country was in danger because of a fierce Philistine warrior.  The warrior was thought to be a giant, which implies that he was amongst one of the largest men of the day.  He spoke arrogant statements for 40 days, but the entire army of Israel was intimidated and scared to overtake him!  David (the small shepherd) chose not to allow his country to submit to the arrogance of the Phillistines.  If he had, his country would have looked like punks and pushovers,  and probably would have been taken advantage of.  David responded:

“I’ve been a shepherd, tending sheep for my father. Whenever a lion or bear came and took a lamb from the flock, I’d go after it, knock it down, and rescue the lamb. If it turned on me, I’d grab it by the throat, wring its neck, and kill it. Lion or bear, it made no difference—I killed it. And I’ll do the same to this Philistine pig who is taunting the troops of God-Alive. God, who delivered me from the teeth of the lion and the claws of the bear, will deliver me from this Philistine.”




What have you overcome?  Maybe your in school and feel like, “How can I finish this?” Remember all of the grades that you completed?  Remind yourself of what you had completed, and overtake that coursework.  Maybe your in business.  Remember all of the obstacles that you overcame to get where you are, and overtake the next with that momentum.  Maybe you are married.  Remember all of the struggles that you overtook before, and use that momentum to overtake the ones you see now.

3. Maintain an environment of overcomers

Keep your music, your entertainment, your friends, your family in a spirit of victory.  Make victory the focus of your conversation.  Make speaking about victory a habit.  When defeat is brought up, address it with victory.

Imagine what it would be like then to be fired up with enthusiasm about something—well once your confidence levels grow, then you feel more competent. What drives confidence onwards is passion—the internal zeal to achieve and accomplish. Passion energizes you and activates the neurons of confidence to send stronger signals. What greater examples can we have than that of Bill Gates or Henry Ford, who have proved that with confidence and a ‘passion Grande’, it is possible to make dreams come true.

So, tackle the rocks that dare you to climb, plunge into the waters that dare you to swim, you may not become a star swimmer or even get a certificate to show that you did participate, but all that matters is that you tried to push away the fears. With time, you achieve a modicum of climbing and swimming skills, which you wouldn’t have, if you hadn’t tried. If confidence is the foundation, then passion is the building—a strong foundation augurs a strong building.

Confidence builds competence and zeal fires confidence –together they can light a fire that’s hard to put out. They make things happen for you.


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